A Non-Profit organization strengthening the Warrior-Spouse relationship for military families around the world.

With Love John and Samantha Commins

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The Come Home Project

NON PROFIT ORGANIZATION

The Come Home Project is a Marine Corps Veteran ran non-profit that strengthens the Warrior-Spouse relationship. 

Together John and Samantha are using their personal experiences to combat the problems that lead to divorce in military couples across the country.  The Come Home Project community is a space created by the Commins as a tool to help military members grow in their personal relationships before, during, and after service. 

Our mission is simple; bring happiness into the couples who deserve it the most, our Warrior-Spouse relationship. We provide an interactive online class, in person workshops, a yearly couples retreat (coming Summer of 2020), and are available as guest speakers. 

MEET…John & Sam

 

Marine Corps Veteran & Spouse, Coaching Military Couples

 

Sam and John are THE “tell it like it is” couple, down to Earth, raw and real. John is a Marine Veteran and Sam is a former medical field worker. They found each other through…TINDER, yes Tinder, the crazy world we live in now. They are both former college athletes, baseball and softball, respectively. They each earned their Bachelors degrees and John is continuing his education to earn his Masters in Organizational Leadership. What you may not know is that they have their first baby, Giovanni, on the way!

After their time spent together while John was in the Marine Corps and as Drone Contractor they found what there are truly passionate about, the Warrior-Spouse relationship.

 

Our Approach

After years of experience we have concluded that  many want to run away from the words therapy and counseling. We understand the stigma when asking  for help so we became creative. The Come Home Project community was created to bring experts to the comfort of your own phone. Our focus is creating happiness in the present too create a better future. Sounds corny? We know but come check it out and see how you feel!

What obstacles were presenting in your relationship BEFORE joining The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*Talking about how we both feel on certain subjects and getting mad instead of just understanding the others perspective.
*Effectively communicating in the ways our significant other needs. I would try and talk to him “my way” instead of reaching him in ways he needed. (Space, not trying to fix or give advise on everything)
What changes have you seen in your relationship or yourself because of The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*We both can communicate without getting mad or ignoring the problem completely
*We are so much more considerate of each other’s feelings. It doesn’t seem “stupid “ anymore to say “hey I feel …” . It’s helped us look beyond the generic instant response and actually think about how we need to respond.
What do you think has been the most valuable benefit from joining The Come Home Project?
*Meeting other couples that are going through the same problems and how they responded to the exercises taught through the course and how their relationship became stronger because of it.
*We didn’t really struggle much but we also didn’t realize how much we didn’t do for each other… small things like appreciation and voicing our frustration with intent of resolution- not fighting. Just “being” there to support not to control.
Would you recommend The Come Home Project and why?
*Yes, because everyone can improve on their relationship regardless of how perfect they think it is
*Abso(effin)lutely. It wasn’t something we would normally do but we figured “why not” no harm in learning something new. Jon and Sam led very comfortable conversation and made it so easy. It was refreshing and I’m so glad it wasn’t like a boring counseling session (no offense to therapists).
The Fausetts

USMC, currently served 6-10 years

What obstacles were presenting in your relationship BEFORE joining The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*Two very different conflict resolution styles. I yelled/he withdrew. Resentment about job over family(me)/not feeling valued(him). Misinterpretation of others emotions and missing the deeper root causes of reactions.
What changes have you seen in your relationship or yourself because of The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*I still yell but he knows to tell me if he needs a time out before continuing. He verbalizes that he needs to organize his thoughts and I have been focused on remembering to give him space to answer. I feel like there’s fewer frustrations on both sides because we are communicating more effectively than we have in the past. Im able to unpack my bullshit faster and verbalize to him that my anger or anxiety is coming from somewhere else and isn’t directed at him but he’s my safe space to vent the frustrations. I’ve worked through some of my PTSD habits from sexual assault and instead of using avoidance/numbing I’ve been using the tools talked about and was able to talk to him about why it seems like I don’t trust anyone with our kids (even him) in a much more therapeutic way than I have before. I understand more that very strong emotions are a challenge for him and we’ve been able to talk about it more easily using the tools presented in the course.
What do you think has been the most valuable benefit from joining The Come Home Project?
*It gave us more tools for effective communication and showed us we aren’t alone in having issues.
Would you recommend The Come Home Project and why?
*Yes because anyone who is willing to put in the work would be able to find something of value in the course. Maybe not every week feels like it’s your exact issue but many weeks you might think you don’t have that problem and realize that you could be better at *insert topic of the week* even if it’s not currently an issue in your relationship. It helps you to look within not just place blame on your partner, and it’s less touchy feely bullshit than the marriage classes on base will make you do, trust me cause we were already forced to do one of those. We actually ended up teaching the counselors a new tool in that class, so we got very little from it that wasn’t easily googleable (not a word but it is now!).
The Lowes

USMC, currently 6-10 years served

What obstacles were presenting in your relationship BEFORE joining The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*Communication while deployed
What changes have you seen in your relationship or yourself because of The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*We communicate much better less fights and learning he do’s and don’ts in our relationship, without changing who we are.
What do you think has been the most valuable benefit from joining The Come Home Project?
*Hearing everyone’s story, you learn that it’s ok to fight but to work things out that you aren’t the only ones making the mistakes. Yet you also are not alone in wanting to fix the problem as well.
Would you recommend The Come Home Project and why?
*Yes, I plan to get married and the tools and the talks that we have had so far are making my relationship going into our wedding day stronger than what we could have done on our own.
A. Martinez & V. Garate (Martinez)

USAF, Served 6-10 years, Now overseas civilan contracting

What obstacles were presenting in your relationship BEFORE joining The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*Healthy Communication
What changes have you seen in your relationship or yourself because of The Come Home Project Couples Course?
*We have tools to communicate properly that are reasonable and help us to see each others perspectives.
What do you think has been the most valuable benefit from joining The Come Home Project?
*A family who understand what our lives are like and people we could be Transparent.
Would you recommend The Come Home Project and why?
*A million Times YES! You can’t have a great marriage without tools! We can look back on how we were before and celebrate how we are now because of the Come Home Project!
The Wooters

USMC, Currently Serving 0-5 years

Contact Us

Ask a question, want us to touch on a subject or book an appointment below! For emergencies call 911 or visit your nearest hospital.

thecomehomeproject@gmail.com